Doodlebug's Mom

Type III parents strike a difficult balance with their children — one between authority and friend. To your children, you are both the rule maker and the confidante. You're very involved in their lives and you've established open verbal communication with them. You are very demanding but very responsive to them as well. You hold your children to a fairly high standard of behavior, but also work hard to be open and emotionally available whenever they need you. You set clear and consistent boundaries to which you ask their respect and adherence, but you do so in a warm, affectionate, and fair manner. You nurture a child's self-reliance and independence by doing things such as including them in family decision-making processes. You run your family like a democracy, wherein your children feel respected and free to question your viewpoints and disagree with the rules of the house. In a manner of speaking, you encourage them to contribute to their own parenting on a day-to-day basis. Punishments, when they happen, do not tend to be distributed in a highly emotional or physical manner, with a lot of yelling or spanking. Rather, they are carried out using more of a non-emotional system of consequences, such as withdrawal of one of the child's privileges or calling for a time-out. Positive Effects of Your Parenting Style Research suggests that your parenting pattern is strongly associated with children who become independent, socially responsible, and emotionally secure adults. It also shows that these children tend to have high self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-control. Furthermore, children raised under the Type III parenting style tend to have really strong relationships with their parents. So much so, that when Type III parents punish their children, the children often understand why — they recognize what they did as wrong, and feel badly about it. Perhaps because they're open to understanding actions and consequences of those actions, these children tend to be very comfortable with social and intellectual self-assertion, and on average have good chances of long-term academic success. Negative Effects of Your Parenting Style Your close ties to your children's lives have many benefits, but they can also foster some detrimental development. You don't want to be too involved with their daily lives. Doing so can quash your children's independence — even though you are sincerely trying to nurture it. Over-involvement in a child's life can take many forms. Whether children read into your involvement as placing excessive restrictions or feel smothered by too much affection and attention, research has shown that these tendencies can inhibit a child's ability to develop as a spontaneous and independent individual. Excessive control and monitoring can also make your children moody, introverted, and less socially capable than their peers. Smothering children with love and affection can make them impulsive, immature, and less independent than their peers. Your style of parenting is a strong one. The biggest difficulty you face is simply maintaining the fine line between the perfect amount of involvement, and too much. Remember children need time on their own to make their own decisions. Without that, they'll become dependent on others for approval even on simple decisions. And remember, your child changes with age, so expect your role as a parent to also change. The difficulty is learning how to maintain your close, loving, and instructive relationship with your child over time. As a Type III parent, your strength lies in your suggestive, rather than directive, approach to parent-child interaction. You tend to outline acceptable standards, and encourage your children's conscience to guide their actions. Maintain a close relationship with your children and hold them to the standards and boundaries that you do institute. But make a conscious effort to avoid becoming the kind of parent who lays down the law in a seemingly absolute and arbitrary manner. Sure, it's important that your children do all of their homework to the best of their ability, but don't you also want them to learn for the sake of learning? Your children should not do their homework because you said so, but rather because they're following their genuine interests. This way, they're more likely to develop a strong work ethic and the ability to learn. Children have a great opportunity to learn about the consequences of the decisions they make, but they will only do so if you consistently insist they make decisions and think for themselves in the first place. Encourage them when they are doing their homework and help out where you can, but not too much. Remember that, as your children's parent, you are one of the primary vehicles through which they're learning how to learn.

Research suggests that when it comes right down to it, there are two main dimensions that contribute to different people's parenting styles. Those dimensions are Parental Warmth and Parental Control. Parental Warmth Parental Warmth is an overall dimension that measures the amount of support or affection a parent provides. It can be looked at in terms of how much a parent encourages open communication and discussion of feelings, as well as how much a parent empathizes with their children and offers them unconditional love and support. Here's how you scored on the Parental Warmth scale: 90%90% 0 100% You received a high score with respect to Parental Warmth, which studies suggest is great news for your children. Research shows that high levels of Parental Warmth lead to many positive traits in children, from high self-esteem to confidence in a variety of social settings. Of course, raising children is a complex process — and no single analysis can guarantee your children's success, just as no single way of interacting with your children will work over the entire course of their lifetime. All things change over time, and if you allow your relationship with your children to evolve as time passes, while remaining very affectionate, supportive, and encouraging, then your children should grow up to be secure, confident, and competent adults. Keep it up! The warmth and affection you show your children should continue as they mature, even when they reach the ages where they might start becoming less emotionally available to you. At this stage, children actually need their parents more than ever — their statements and behaviors notwithstanding. So, try to remain as present and attentive as you always have been, while providing them with the freedom and respect that they have begun to request. Of course, your unconditional love and support must go hand-in-hand with you setting clear and consistent boundaries to which they must adhere. It's really quite important that you always remain "the boss" to a certain extent. Don't loose your authority — this is very important if you want to continue helping your children to develop into responsible and self-reliant adults. If you tell them they may not go out on a school night, and they blatantly disobey, your job is to set them straight in a supportive and compassionate way. Punishment is not inconsistent with being a very warm parent. Sit with your children and discuss the matter, explaining why the rules are as they are, and what they could have done aside from disobeying you. Parental Control Parental Control is an overall dimension that measures the degree to which parents monitor, discipline, and regulate their children. It also indicates how strongly parents feel about enforcing rules and expecting their children to take responsibility for their actions. Here's how you scored on the Parental Control scale: 94%94% 0 100% You scored high on our measure of Parental Control, which research suggests is generally a very good thing for your children. High levels of Parental Control can have quite positive ramifications in your children's lives — everything from interest in academics to high self-esteem and independence. You set up standards and boundaries, and you consistently enforce these boundaries, thereby providing your children with a consistent and predictable sense of what is expected of them. This sort of parenting teaches children to engage their curiosity and spontaneity in a safe, emotionally comprehensible, and approachable environment. That is, it will give them the knowledge to where and when they can push the limits a little. So, you've got the whole Parental Control thing well under control. But be mindful of how you exercise that control. Punishment, when it is dished out, need not be very physical or emotionally charged to be effective. And sometimes that's hard to keep in mind. The level of control you exercise when it comes to your children is probably good — just make sure your rules are reasonable, and your punishments fair. The best thing you can do is try to remain calm but focused during times of deciding punishment. When faced with a confrontation that could escalate verbally, opt for a more studied approach, like the removal of a privilege that your children usually get to enjoy, or even the old standby, the "time-out." There's a good reason so many parents use that tactic — it really works, and it actually gives your children a few minutes to think about what they've done and why it was wrong. Also, it gives both you and your children time to cool off. Ideally, high Parental Control should be coupled with high Parental Warmth, thereby creating a situation wherein punishment seems just, and children may even feel that they deserved the punishment they received. Act in response to your children's transgressions, but do not over-react. Keep up the good work, and in times of stress keep your mind on the fact that no matter what your children do, your love for them prevails.

Of course you're your own person. But you might not realize the impact your own rearing has on the way you raise your children. Since this test was designed to show you how your actions affect your children, we wanted also to show you what your parents' parenting style might have to do with how you turned out. Just one caveat, this is just an estimation of what your parents' parenting style is since our aim was not to measure this with the same accuracy as your parenting style. Your parents' parenting style: A loose look at how you answered questions about how you were raised suggests your parents were Type I parents. When you were growing up, did your parents tend to focus on showing you how to follow rules. They may have been very strict, or they may have only set a handful of boundaries for you, but either way it seems likely that they were careful to hold you to the boundaries they did set up. If their parenting was consistent and successful, then you internalized a clear sense of personal responsibility and ethics. Research suggests that children raised by mindful Type I parents often end up academically interested and competent and with clear personal goals. Your Parents' Parental Warmth Score 33%33% 0 100% Based on your answers to some of our questions about your parents, we determined their Parental Warmth score to be 33%. Your estimation indicates that your parents' level of day-to-day emotional expressiveness was on the lower side of the spectrum. This score suggests that they were somewhat reserved, emotionally speaking, and may have even seemed a bit distant. Perhaps they were sometimes very warm and affectionate, but not consistently or on a day-to-day basis. However, research has found that parents' low levels of demonstrated warmth are related to feelings of reduced personal emotional security among their children. Of course, parents who do not rely on demonstrating explicit affection for their children might show their love in equally constant and effective, implicit ways. Perhaps this was your experience. These more subtle implicit methods could easily provide a child with the affection he or she requires to feel personally secure and confident. Your Parents' Parental Control Score 67%67% 0 100% Based on your responses to some questions on our test, you seem to estimate your parents' degree of Parental Control while you were growing up to have been around 67%. Your parents kept a pretty close eye on you when you were little. It sounds like they were pretty strict, or at least very willing to set and enforce "the rules." Maybe there was even a lot of "because I said so" thrown around the dinner table. Children with parents like yours tend to be very obedient, following their parents' rules pretty closely. Interestingly, children raised by such parents often grow up with enhanced senses of self-reliance and personal responsibility, especially if the parents are also very affectionate with them. However, it seems that if high levels of Parental Warmth do not accompany this high level of control, then the obedience gained is often done so at the expense of a certain amount of the child's spontaneity and creativity. Children can develop these qualities anyway, of course, simply depending on the child and his or her situation. What's more, some parents that score where yours did do manage to raise children in a fairly strict household without stepping on their creative and expressive spirit.

Overall, research suggests that optimal parenting, for most people, involves giving a child lots of unconditional love, affection, and day-to-day involvement. Remember to couple this with clear and consistent limits and boundaries. Sometimes those might seem like contradictory actions — but that's what makes parenting such a challenge. Or at least, that's one of the hundreds of things that makes parenting such a challenge. And when we see progress in our children's behavior, whether that is in school, or on the playground, or just in the back seat of the car during rush hour, we remember why this job is so worth it. When it comes to putting everything that you've read thus far into action, it's best to start with this goal: attain a high level of both Parental Warmth and Parental Control. Parental Warmth Moderate-to-high levels of Parental Warmth teach your children that you can be trusted to be there for them when they need you. In the short-term, you become a "home base," to which your children can return if they become unsure of themselves. This is very important for a child's development into an independent and secure individual, since having such a zone of safety makes it easier for them to venture out and explore freely. Basically, while a child is young, a parent provides vital emotional and physical consistency in a world that becomes more and more complex, confusing, and challenging every day. This warmth allows children to learn to interact with the world in their own way, with the knowledge that if they have a problem they cannot solve, they can go to you to help deal with it. In this way, they develop creativity, problem-solving skills, spontaneity, and a willingness to engage their world independently. Parental Control Similarly, moderate-to-high levels of Parental Control seem to optimally help children learn the other side of independence: self-control and personal responsibility. Research bears witness to the old idea that children crave discipline. Parents who monitor and set consistent limits for their children on average end up raising kids who are academically motivated and very self-reliant and responsible. In order to learn to do what you, as their parent, want them to do, children must have boundaries set for them, the violation of which should lead to predictable consequences. It might seem, at times, a bit cut and dry, but it's hard to deny that structure makes learning easier. Think of your own day: how easy would it be to follow a schedule if you didn't have a schedule to follow? Again, the key word is consistency. If your little ones know that you will not put up with them throwing a tantrum in public, and that in fact you respond much more favorably when they ask for things calmly and reasonably, then they are going to work to change to doing things your way. They will learn not to throw a tantrum pretty quickly when they discover that you give them what they want more often when they do ask calmly. Your children want to make you happy and they very much seek your approval. Having a clear set of rules to operate under makes this easier for them, and it reduces the chance that they'll become frustrated. Putting the recommended amounts of Parental Control and Parental Warmth together creates both an effective parenting pattern and a clear and loving parent-child relationship. But taking this report and applying what you've learned is the next, and obviously most vital, step. So you might be asking yourself: What does the life of the Uber-Parent look like? Be child-centered instead of parent-centered. Quite simply, you'll show an interest in your children's day-to-day activities, potentially even above your own day-to-day business. Know your children's whereabouts and activities, as well as with whom they are good friends (we all know this changes from day to day) and therefore associating on a daily basis. Be interested in your child's schooling, and even involved in his or her schoolwork. And most of all, those lines of communications will be open, 24x7. Talk to your kids every day; always keep your parent-child relationship active, fresh, and heart-felt. Put your parent-child relationship on a two-way street. Reciprocity is a vital component in any relationship, and this is especially true between parent and child. You want your children to respect you and to pay attention to information and feedback that you offer, so you should initiate this process by showing your respect to them. Pay attention to them when they have news — even if it seems banal to you. A mutually rewarding parent-child relationship is all about establishing a give-and-take. Build trust with your children. Increase their sense of belonging in the family by involving them in family decision-making processes, both major and minor. Truly consider their opinions when they express them. Help your children to participate in your life and theirs by soliciting their input and their involvement. Take a calm and measured approach to discipline. When one of the rules is broken, avoid immediate punishment. Sit and discuss the issue, and involve your children, where and when appropriate, by asking what they did that made you upset and what they could have done differently. Generally, research has found it best to avoid physical punishment, as it does not seem to lead to long-term obedience in children. Punishments such as spanking tend to, at best, only achieve a child's short-term compliance, and even this is only based on their desire to avoid something bad from happening, as opposed to trying to make good things happen. Furthermore, this short-term obedience is often gained at the expense of something you would like to nurture in your children, such as their creativity or inquisitiveness. Be firm, but be fair, and make sure the consequences fit the action. If your child is doing badly in school because of refusing to do homework, remove the right to engage in some privileged activity, such as watching the television, until that homework gets done every night. Check your children's homework, and perhaps even sit and help them finish it as a fun, collective activity. Reward them for doing their homework by cooking them a special meal, or taking them someplace special sometime. The bottom-line is: when you demonstrate disapproval, try to then find a way to express approval for good behavior. It's never too late to make changes that will help your children become healthy, happy adults. But for the smoothest development, start early. Studies show that parents' styles of child rearing during the first three to four years, determine the basis of the child's self-esteem, according to McKay & Fanning, Self-Esteem, 1992. This finding backs up what we know intuitively: before parents can expect a good parent-child relationship, and a well-behaved, thoughtful child, they must first establish a strong foundation. Those first years of child rearing are vitally important. As a parent, the way you structure your interactions with your children to a large extent determine how they will end up. Research, and common-sense, say that children raised by parents who use a reciprocal, give-and-take method of creating an enduring parent-child relationship tend to do well. They often end up with high self-esteem, are academically competent, socially responsible, and increasingly self-reliant as they grow older. They also develop a strong sense of self-control and personal responsibility. Regardless of where you are in your parenting track, don't underestimate children's ability to bounce-back and adapt to new things. Think of your own childhood. Most likely, you had some hellion peers who are now well-balanced, successful, contributing members of society, with children of their own. We all go through some intensely emotional, transitory stages in life. For some of us, that's a polite definition of 'adolescence.' But even the most rebellious, defiant children can become very successful, competent adults with rich and stable emotional lives. What's most important for you is to not lose sight of that, and to remain patient and positive at all times...or at least as much as possible. Parenting is a life-long process, and an evolutionary one; so take all the hints you can, be supportive and keep giving it your all! Beyond all the research-backed suggestions we've brought you in this report, the most important thing you can give your children is belief in yourself as a parent. Essentially, parenting is about common sense. Unfortunately, day-to-day worries and anxieties, combined with the trials and tribulations that go along with raising a child, can sometimes confuse us and muddle our priorities. Difficulties come, and difficulties go, but your relationship with your child endures. So keep learning as much as you can and enjoy the privilege of parenting. It is a never-ending relationship that will enrich your life as well as those around you.

Type I Type I parents are good at setting rules, making them clear, and seeing to it that their children stick to them. By doing this, you teach your children to value work, tradition, and respect for authority. While some parents allow their children's missteps to go unnoticed, you prefer to call them out with swift punishment. This way, your children learn to abide by and honor agreements, whether written, spoken, or simply understood. This is a valuable skill they will carry into their relationships with other people. Yours is a very direct style of parenting, as opposed to a suggestive approach. By acting in this way, you establish relationships with your children that revolve around unwavering demands to comply with your requests. The suggestive approach might seem too soft to you. When you leave children to make decisions on their own, you might feel they are more likely to go astray. After all, they don't have the experience and knowledge that you do. That's why giving them rules and expectations as guidelines probably makes more sense to you. All in all, your direct method of parenting is often highly effective. You, more than other parents, are likely to see more immediate results with your children since the boundaries you set are so clear. They know what to expect, so they know how to adapt their behavior accordingly. Type II Type II parents give their children freedom to engage and explore their world in their own way. You believe in a child's natural right to express his or her feelings, desires, and curiosities, and you do not want to stunt this explorative nature with excessive rules and regulations. You also understand the value of rules and importance of structure in children's lives, but you care more about their feelings and experiences as individuals than about their rigid adherence to an arbitrary set of rules. The company line in your house might be "lights out at 10:00," but it's not a big deal if a special television program or an out-of-town guest pushes that back an hour or so. You provide your children with ample love, affection, and emotional support, so they know that you are there when they need you. Type II parents like you believe that good rules have an element of elasticity to them. You also buffer your children with ample nurturing. As a result, your children are curious, and willing to test the rules and risk getting in trouble in order to satisfy this curiosity. With your parenting style, parent-child interactions tend to revolve around this rule-testing, with parents often willing to back down. And, as with all styles of parenting, this leads to some breakthroughs and some pitfalls. Type IV As a Type IV parent, you offer your child unequivocal freedom. You've freed your children from the constraints of excessive parental boundary-setting, as well as from perpetual parental coddling and doting. Maybe you consider such things unnecessary, or harmful, or just a waste of time. Perhaps you feel that life itself is the best teacher, and there are some hard lessons that we can only really learn on our own. You're protective of your children, but you believe that your presence in their lives should be more implicit than explicit. Occasionally you must enforce a rule or two, but you prefer to allow your children to learn according to their own schedule and through their own mistakes. Your parenting pattern shows that you do not hold their hands at every possible moment. You consider it important for them to, as they age, maintain a rich and healthy life outside of their parent-child relationship. Your child is important to you, but so are your personal and professional goals, your ambitions, and your life outside of your role as a parent. As a result, your child receives a generous dose of freedom in life as well as a model for how to go about getting what you want in life. But parenting, as you well know, is a tricky game, and you need to be mindful of the freedom you afford them. As with every aspect of life, you need to strike a balance.

The research behind the test rests on theories developed and brought together by psychologists Diana Baumrind, Ph.D, Eleanor E. Maccoby, Ph.D and John A. Martin, Ph.D. Dr. Diana Baumrind, currently a research psychologist at UC Berkeley, has been a leading researcher in the field of developmental psychology for over forty years. Her work on patterns of parental authority (1971) provided the primary basis for this test. Her work in this area firmly established Parental Control and Parental Warmth as two very important dimensions in studying parenting style, while it also gave rise to the basic version of the four different styles that one arrives at when crossing these two dimensions. Dr. Eleanor Maccoby, a professor emeritus at Stanford University, is one of the foremost developmental psychology researchers in the world today. She has worked to clarify patterns of parent-child interaction and their effects in homes that are comprised of both parents and in homes where a divorce has occurred, as well as on the extent and origins of the differences between the sexes. Dr. Maccoby and Dr. John Martin (1983) synthesized a wide variety of related research done over the prior 20 years, and especially that of Dr. Baumrind, to create the four parenting styles that we used in our test. It is interesting to note that contemporary research in developmental psychology focuses less upon parenting style and more on the parent-child relationship and entire system of interactions more holistically. Thus, experimental developmental psychology today tends to employ observational methods of study, as opposed to such self-report methods as were used in our test, due to the fact that people can not be relied upon to even be able to accurately report about themselves. This problem is especially evident when discussing potentially sensitive topics, such as one's relationship with one's children.

 

 

Does anyone really know how hard it is to be disabled? No, unless you are too disabled.

Being disabled is a pain in my ass!!!! There are days that I can't go to work because I'm in pain so much. Between the migraines I get (they knock me on my ass), the pain in my left leg from arthritis, the pain in my left foot from my leg brace, and the fact that I can't use my left arm and hand as well as most people about kills me sometimes. No I am not having a pity party for myself just having a bad day. I had to call into work because my left hand is going numb and I'm fighting a bad migraine--I can't sleep because of it. The house is dark and quiet but nothing is helping-including drugs.

I know that there are people out there that are worse off than me. I don't know how they handle it; maybe one of those people will see this and give me some pointers on how to help me... People say they understand but they don't; I hurt!!!!

15 years ago today my life totally changed. How(?) you say; well, I had a massive stroke that paralized my left side. It was like someone drew a line straight down the middle of my body, my right side was fine but my left side was useless and numb.

The September before, the doctors told me I had multple sclerosis. Thank God I don't have that; this I can deal with-I'm about as good as I'll ever get. I will never be the person I was before, but I have come to grips with that.

I will post the why's and what happened to me at a later date. Just wanted to post this for now.

Take care all

Katrina, your dating personality is:




Katrina, when it comes to dating, you are a Social Idealist. This means you feel in your heart that there is one special partner out there for you and chances are, you've spent plenty of time daydreaming about them. You've probably imagined all kinds of things about who they are, compiling a mental checklist down to the smallest details. After all, knowing what you want is a good thing. You're pretty sure you'll know love when you see it and you're more than willing to go out and find your ideal mate. Being naturally social, meeting people may feel almost like a hobby of yours. You enjoy chatting up friends of friends, or even total strangers, more than most people do. But this outgoing nature doesn't mean you take whatever comes your way. When it comes to finding a love interest, you're not interested in just anyone. You want "the one."

This romantic quest likely has you sizing up new people's potential as soon as you meet them. In the first five minutes of talking to someone at a party, you've probably determined whether you find them attractive, critiqued their personality, and decided whether or not they're a long-term prospect. You may have even named the offspring you would have with them.

Your checklist-style quick judgment can work both for and against you. Many people don't measure up to your ideals. Be careful of any tendency to throw a potential date away too quickly. You just may overlook a fantastic mate because they have a funny laugh or the wrong colored hair, and ultimately, is it worth it to do that? You never know where love will blossom, and with so many different prospects to choose from, even the process of looking can be fun.

Based on your answers to the test, we can also tell that you're likely to have taken a leading role in your romantic life, so that your dating career to this point has been no accident. In fact, whether you realize it or not, you probably take your search for the right partner quite seriously. More than other people, you tend to strategize ways to meet new people. You are also likely to give this goal equal importance when compared with others. Whether you have found dates through friends, joined a dating service to increase your chances of meeting new people, or simply talked to an interesting stranger you keep running into at your local bookstore, you know how to take control of finding love. By charting your romantic path, you're likely to find yourself with a steady stream of dates, or at least people in whom you're interested. This puts you well on the right road to finding "the one."

There are many ways you can find love. But based on your personality, your best bet is to take advantage of your comfort in social situations. When you let your personable, friendly nature shine though, everything you do becomes an opportunity to meet new people. Not only that, but your confidence can actually draw people to you. You may find total strangers going out of their way to ask you the time or strike up a conversation about current events. Learn to pounce on these special moments. Also, because you're as at ease in unfamiliar places as you are in your own backyard, you can meet others in a wide variety of situations. Take this strength to heart and branch out. Widen your net to cover the parts of the dating pool you find most interesting: new restaurants, sporting events, museums, or charity functions. The world is your oyster. Additionally, since you've probably determined that no one in your current social circle is a contender for "the one," keep your eyes and mind open. This title is likely to be won by someone new in your life, not someone who is currently unavailable or uninterested in you.

You've just learned about your dating personality and how it can affect your approach to finding love. Now let's turn to some practical ways you can better prepare yourself to find your mate. Based on your characteristics, here are the top 6 guidelines to help you meet your match. 1. Be self-aware The more you are in touch with your own likes, dislikes, behaviors, and shortcomings, the more equipped you'll be to find love. Not only will self-knowledge aid you once you're in a relationship, but it can also help you to feel at ease when meeting new people. When you know yourself, you can be yourself, and this brings a whole new kind of confidence to your dating style. Just how can one become more self-aware? The most basic way is by paying attention to your actions and feelings in different situations. For a more complete view, consider asking the people who know you best, and who will be truthful, to tell you their perceptions of you. Sometimes it's hard to hear what others think of us, but be brave. You might be pleasantly surprised by what they have to say. No matter what, you'll gain valuable insights into your character. 2. Ditch your personal baggage When a relationship ends, you're typically left with a random collection of photos, fond memories, stray T-shirts, and mementos. However, what you may not realize is that each relationship also leaves a little something behind in your psyche, a reminder of the experiences you shared with another person. Some of these mental marks can be positive, like memories of laughter, special moments together, and thoughts about the times when you felt completely loved and accepted. Other marks are not so positive. Unfortunately, most people have had at least one relationship that ended poorly or one person who treated them unfairly. If you've ever been hurt like this, you know it can leave a chip on your shoulder that you carry into dating and future relationships. No one wants to feel pain, but to truly connect with someone, it's best to leave your preconceptions at the door. Just because one love used to lie to you doesn't mean your next one will. Don't cower behind your old fears. And don't presume that if a new interest shares one characteristic with an old flame, that they share all characteristics with that person. Similarly, if you always had to nag your old flame, don't start into your new relationship where you left off with your old flame. Don't start your relationship off on the wrong foot by showing your new interest you're going to nag them for no reason. Because you know what you want in your perfect partner, you tend to be very selective at the outset of a potential romance. The most basic way you take control is by screening out the many prospects you don't find worthy. However, once you've settled into a relationship you may find that you hand over control to the person with whom you're involved. Since they've already met your standards, you may feel that now you can "relax and enjoy the ride." Let them pick the movies and make the decisions. You already did your work by finding them. When things go well in your relationships, everything can be rosy between you two. However, if your relationship begins going badly, you might find yourself disillusioned and withdrawing from your partner rather than trying to work things out. This kind of behavior could be due to a number of reasons. One potential reason is the fear of taking responsibility for your relationship's successes and failures. Another is that you may be withdrawing to regain your independence, if you felt as if you were losing yourself within the relationship. In either case, by reversing this trend and beginning to make important relationship decisions, can you increase your chances of creating a lasting love, and that accepting that you actually might have found it. 3. Love yourself for who you are Chances are, there are some aspects of yourself that you like, and others you're not so crazy about. You may love that you're friendly and easygoing, but detest that you sometimes let people walk all over you. You might appreciate that you have your mother's beautiful eyes, but be endlessly frustrated that she also passed along that short gene to you. Everyone has parts of themselves that they'd like to change - although they may not readily admit to them. Rather than harp on the aspects you don't like, psychologists encourage you to begin accepting yourself as a whole person, warts and all. Remember that no one is perfect and everyone has faults. It may sound cliché, but it is our differences that make us unique. Those who can realize this truth and accept themselves for better and for worse are best able to connect with another person to find love. 4. Increase your self-esteem Feeling good about yourself is one of the most attractive qualities you can possess. Whether you realize it or not, positivity radiates in ways that people can feel. Think about the last time you saw someone who was really at ease. They may have seemed to glide right into the room and chances are, they got more than one person's attention. But it's all well and good to say, "Feel good about yourself," when the fact of the matter is that some days are better than others. Self-esteem fluctuates and certain events that affect it are beyond your control. However, once you know how a particular type of situation is likely to affect you, you have much more power over the repercussions. For example, if a friend of yours has a habit of making snide remarks that put you down, it's likely that you always feel bad about yourself after spending time with them. In such a case, you have options. You can stop spending time with your friend or speak up for yourself until the remarks stop. By taking either action, rather than just letting the pattern continue, you make positive steps towards building that kind of self-esteem that attracts partners. 5. Get in the right mindset Because you know that you thrive in social situations, set at least one attainable goal for yourself — something you know that you can accomplish easily before the night is over when you go out to mix and mingle. No need to raise the bar too high at first; you want to set yourself up for success rather than failure. You might tell yourself, "I will speak with at least 2 new people tonight," or, "I will smile at three complete strangers in every single place I go." Once you've met your initial objective, feel free to up the ante. Set goals that may be beyond what you think you are capable of doing, and then see what you are made of. You might not reach every goal, but you'll probably be pleasantly surprised by what you can accomplish, and how people will react to you. 6. Last minute tips To further prepare yourself to get out there and meet the perfect partner, here are some thoughts to keep in mind wherever you are, to maximize your dating potential. The fact that you're comfortable in social situations can actually put other people at ease. Use this strength to your advantage. By being approachable, you greatly enhance your chances of connecting with someone special. It can be fun to get to know new people, so there's no need to make it a chore. Instead, pretend that you are playing a game. Your objective is to meet at least one new person each time you go out and to learn as much information about them as you can in one meeting. Keep in mind which kinds of questions are appropriate, of course. There's no need to get too personal. While you're getting to know this person, remember to make eye contact and smile, but don't overdo it. If conversation doesn't flow naturally with the first person you approach, move on to another. Remember that the object of the game is to learn about someone new, not to put a stranger, or you, in an uncomfortable position. Remember that a lot of the advice people give you about life in general still applies to dating. If someone doesn't respond to you in the way that you had hoped, don't take it personally. Instead of being self-critical, try to think of the situation in a new way. If someone didn't smile back at you, maybe they were having a bad day. If a person didn't laugh at your jokes, perhaps you two simply don't share the same sense of humor. Think of these kinds of situations as saving you a good deal of time and energy. Your efforts are best spent on people who can enjoy and appreciate you. It's far too exhausting trying to figure out how to please people and make them laugh if they don't share a number of commonalities with you.

Once you've taken some time working with the advice in the previous sections, you'll be ready to get out there and apply what you've learned. Don't expect yourself to have fully mastered these tips before taking the plunge into dating. Perfect self-esteem, complete self-knowledge, and zero emotional baggage are not realistic precursors for meeting someone special. If they were, no one would date. Instead, you can simply be aware of these ideas and learn about yourself as you go. In fact, committing to evolving as an individual and acknowledging there are still things for you to improve is the best way to come into a relationship that will need the same kind of commitment, attention, and love. You may feel as if you have hit a wall in the dating process and have exhausted all your options to meet someone you care about. Try not to let this feeling get you down. At one time or another, most people get into dating ruts. It's time to break out of your old patterns and get ready to try something new. As discussed above, there are all kinds of ways to meet people. Make the most of your outgoing nature and keep an open mind when choosing activities. Also, while you experiment with different ways to connect with someone special, note what works for you and what could be improved. Over time you can fine-tune these suggestions to make them a part of your natural routine. You may have tried some of these suggestions before, but do yourself a favor and try them again. Because you are likely to have just learned a good deal about yourself, you may find that the techniques work differently now. Also, know that some suggestions may feel awkward to you at first. It's often hard to try new things. Only practice makes perfect. So here's the first thing you can try: use networking to your advantage. How to use networking to your advantage Most people think of networking as being limited to the business arena. The word likely conjures up images of people in suits trading business cards, or someone seeking leads to find a job, or a sales person making connections to find new clients. But networking is much more than a way of doing business. It's a practice that can help you in your search to find your ideal mate. Networking is all about using your current connections to make future ones. This technique can be put to use easily in your search for someone special. Almost anyone in your social circle is likely to have friends or acquaintances who are single and looking for a date. Just think of how many people you know — friends, work colleagues, neighbors. You can probably compile quite a long list. The key is to access this vast resource in a way that fits with your personality. Your social skills make you a natural networker. Grab your address book and begin thinking about people you'd like to contact during your search for dates. Talk with your closest friends first to see if they can set you up with anyone. Then, when you feel comfortable, branch out and start asking your acquaintances and business colleagues if they know of singles with whom you might make a good match. Learn to ask anyone and everyone: your hairdresser, your local dry cleaner, you name it. You never know which one of these people might know someone who'd fit with you in a romantic relationship. Just remember that if it doesn't work out with one person, it's okay. The more dates you go on, the closer you come to perfecting your search for "the one." Besides tapping your social network for possible dates, you also might want to consider participating in singles events. Because you're typically outgoing, you're a great candidate for these kinds of activities. Several sponsors, ranging from religious organizations to vacation destinations, hold events specifically designed for singles. Find one that fits your interests and run with it. Since everyone who participates in these activities is looking for love, there may very well be a potential Mr. or Ms. Right in the bunch. At the very least, you're likely to meet new people who can fix you up with someone they know. That's the magic of networking. Because of your personality, it's difficult to present you with challenges in the networking arena. Connecting with people, whether they're old friends or strangers, is your forte. This being the case, here is another networking suggestion to try. Why not volunteer to help out your high school or college alumni association? By getting involved there, you might forge some new ties with old friends. And who knows, your perfect partner might even turn out to be the friend of a former classmate.

Katrina, you're a bit like Rachel!

She's everybody's sweetheart, despite some (mostly) endearing quirks. And it looks like you too, have a little Rachel Green inside you. (If you're lucky, you might share her good looks too). Some may see you as a little spoiled, or at times naive. But overall you're a total doll. Like the real Rachel, you make your way in the world, figuring it out as you go.

Sometimes your story-book ideals of how things should turn out keep you from taking life as it comes, but that lovable vulnerability just makes people feel closer to you. You have true compassion, an idiosyncratic side your friends delight in—and, of course, great taste. Reminder, o charming one: People love it when you call them "hun."

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22 December 1968 Your date of conception was on or about 31 March 1968 which was a Sunday. You were born on a Sunday under the astrological sign Capricorn. Your Life path number is 4. Life Path Compatibility: You are most compatible with those with the Life Path numbers 2, 4, 8, 11 & 22. You should get along well with those with the Life Path numbers 6 & 7. You are least compatible with those with the Life Path numbers 1, 3, 5 & 9. The Julian calendar date of your birth is 2440212.5. The golden number for 1968 is 12. The epact number for 1968 is 0. The year 1968 was a leap year. Your birthday falls into the Chinese year beginning 1/30/1968 and ending 2/16/1969. You were born in the Chinese year of the Monkey. Your Native American Zodiac sign is Goose; your plant is Bramble. You were born in the Egyptian month of Menchir, the second month of the season of Poret (Emergence - Fertile soil). Your date of birth on the Hebrew calendar is 1 Tevet 5729. The date of Easter on your birth year was Sunday, 14 April 1968. The date of Orthodox Easter on your birth year was Sunday, 21 April 1968. The date of Ash Wednesday (the first day of Lent) on your birth year was Wednesday 28 February 1968. The date of Whitsun (Pentecost Sunday) in the year of your birth was Sunday 2 June 1968. The date of Whisuntide in the year of your birth was Sunday 9 June 1968. The date of Rosh Hashanah in the year of your birth was Monday, 23 September 1968. The date of Passover in the year of your birth was Saturday, 13 April 1968. The date of Mardi Gras on your birth year was Tuesday 27 February 1968.   As of 9/13/2006 4:21:11 PM EDT You are 37 years old. You are 453 months old. You are 1,968 weeks old. You are 13,779 days old. You are 330,712 hours old. You are 19,842,741 minutes old. You are 1,190,564,471 seconds old. Celebrities who share your birthday: Maurice Gibb (1949) Robin Gibb (1949) Steve Garvey (1948) Diane Sawyer (1945) Barbara Billingsley (1922) Gene Rayburn (1917) Lady Bird Johnson (1912) Top songs of 1968 Hey Jude by Beatles I Heard It Through the Grapevine by Marvin Gaye Love Is Blue by Paul Mauriat Honey by Bobby Goldsboro People Got to Be Free by Rascals The Dock of the Bay by Otis Redding This Guy's In Love with You by Herb Alpert Mrs. Robinson by Simon & Garfunkel Love Child by Diana Ross & the Supremes Tighten Up by Archie Bell & the Drells Your age is the equivalent of a dog that is 5.39295499021526 years old. (You're still chasing cats!) There are 100 days till your next birthday on which your cake will have 38 candles. Those 38 candles produce 38 BTUs, or 9,576 calories of heat (that's only 9.5760 food Calories!) . You can boil 4.34 US ounces of water with that many candles.   In 1968 there were approximately 3.7 million births in the US. In 1968 the US population was approximately 179,323,175 people, 50.6 persons per square mile. In 1968 in the US there were approximately 1,800,000 marriages (9.3%) and 479,000 divorces (2.5%) In 1968 in the US there were approximately 1,712,000 deaths (9.5 per 1000) In the US a new person is born approximately every 8 seconds. In the US one person dies approximately every 12 seconds. In 1968 the population of Australia was approximately 12,145,582. In 1968 there were approximately 240,906 births in Australia. In 1968 in Australia there were approximately 106,345 marriages and 10,731 divorces. In 1968 in Australia there were approximately 109,547 deaths. Your birthstone is Blue Zircon The Mystical properties of Blue Zircon Zircon helps one be more at peace with oneself. Some lists consider these stones to be your birthstone. (Birthstone lists come from Jewelers, Tibet, Ayurvedic Indian medicine, and other sources) Blue Topaz, Ruby, Lapis Lazuli Your birth tree is Beech, the Creative Has good taste, concerned about its looks, materialist, good organisation of life and career, economical, good leader, takes no unnecessary risks, reasonable, splendid lifetime companion, keen on keeping fit (diets, sports, etc.). There are 103 days till Christmas 2006! There are 116 days till Orthodox Christmas! The moon's phase on the day you were born was waxing crescent. http://www.paulsadowski.com/birthday.asp

What Your Name Means

http://www.paulsadowski.com/Numbers.asp You entered: Katrina Marie Hager There are 17 letters in your name. Those 17 letters total to 87 There are 8 vowels and 9 consonants in your name. Your number is: 6 The characteristics of #6 are: Responsibility, protection, nurturing, community, balance, sympathy. The expression or destiny for #6: The number 6 Expression provides you a truly outstanding sense of responsibility, love, and balance. The 6 is helpful and ever conscientious, making you quite capable of rectifying and balancing any sort of inharmonious situation. You are a person very much inclined to give help and comfort to those in need. You have a natural penchant for working with the old, the young, the sick, or the underprivileged. Although you may have considerable creative and artistic talents, the chances are that you will devote yourself to an occupation that shows concern for the betterment of the community. The positive side of the number 6 suggests that you are very loving, friendly, and appreciative of others. You have a depth of understanding that produces much sympathetic, kindness, and generosity. The qualities of the 6 make the finest and most concerned parent and one often deeply involved in domestic activities. Openness and honesty is apparent in your approach to all relationships. If there is an excess of the number 6 in your makeup, you may exhibit some of the negative traits associated with this number. There may be a tendency for you to be too exacting and demanding of yourself. In this regard, you may at times sacrifice yourself (or your loved ones) for the welfare of others. In some cases, the over zealous 6 has difficulty distinguishing helping from interfering. You may have difficulty expressing your own individuality, because of involvement with responsibilities and causes. Like all with the Expression of the number 6, it's quite likely that you worry much too much. Your Soul Urge number is: 5 A Soul Urge number of 5 means: The 5 soul urge or motivation would like to follow a life of freedom, excitement, adventure and unexpected happening. The idea of travel and freedom to roam intrigues you. You are very much the adventurer at heart. Not particularly concerned about your future or about getting ahead, you can seem superficial and unmotivated. In a positive sense, the energies of the number 5 make you very adaptable and versatile. You have a natural resourcefulness and enthusiasm that may mark you as a progressive with a good mind and active imagination. You seem to have a natural inclination to be a pace-setter. You are attracted to the unusual and the fast paced. You may be overly restless and impatient at times. You may dislike the routine work that you are engaged in, and tend to jump from activity to activity, without ever finishing anything. You may have difficulty with responsibility. You don't want to be tied down to a relationship, and it may be hard to commit to one person. Your Inner Dream number is: 1 An Inner Dream number of 1 means: You dream of being a leader and one who is in charge. You want to be known for your courage, daring, and original ideas. You seek unconquered heights. People may get a first impression that you are very aggressive and sure of yourself.

Thanks also to Michelle and Aaron for sharing this letter with us.

**The following letter was written by my husband, Aaron, who is currently deployed to Iraq, in defense of a recent comment made by Senator John Kerry.
Pass it along, it might inspire someone else to speak up! ~ Michelle**

The other day - John Kerry said, "You know education..If you make the most of it, you study hard, you do your homework, and you make an effort to be smart, you can do well, and if you don't, you get stuck in Iraq."

So I wrote him a letter:

I am a Sergeant in the United States Marine Corps. I am currently on my second tour in Iraq, a tour in which I volunteered for. I speak Arabic and Spanish and I plan to tackle Persian Farsi soon. I have a Bachelors and an Associates Degree and between deployments I am pursuing an M.B.A. In college I was a member of several academic honor societies, including the Golden Key Honor Society. I am not unique among the enlisted troops. Many of my enlisted colleagues include lawyers, teachers, mechanics, engineers, musicians and artists just to name a few. You say that your comments were directed towards the President and not us. If we were stupid Senator Kerry, we might have believed you.

I am not a victim of President Bush. I proudly serve him because he is my Commander and Chief. If it was you who was President, I would serve you just as faithfully. I serve America Senator Kerry, and I am also providing a service to the good people of Iraq. I have not terrorized them in the middle of the night, raped them or murdered them as you have accused me of before. I am doing my part to help them rebuild. My role is a simple one, but important. You see Senator Kerry, like it or not, we came here and removed a tyrant (who terrorized Iraqis in the middle of the night, and raped them and murdered them). And we have a responsibility to see to it that another one doesn't take his place. The people of Iraq are recovering from an abusive relationship with a terrible government and its going to take some time to help them recover from that. We can't treat this conflict like a microwave dinner and throw a temper tantrum because we feel like its taking too long.

Senator Kerry, you don't have to agree with this war. You don't have to say nice things about those of us who choose to make sacrifices for the rights of every American rather than sit back and simply feel entitled to it. But please Senator Kerry, if you're going to call me a stupid murdering rapist, stick by what you say. Don't tell me that I misunderstood or that you would never insult a veteran because you are one too. Having been there and done that does not give you a free pass to insult me.

My suggestion for you, Senator Kerry, is to remember that your speeches are recorded, and broadcast to us simpletons over here. You may want to work on the delivery of what's written for you by your spin doctors - say it back to them so they can tell you what the presentation sounds like, how others might interpret what you say.. Remember that we can't read your mind. If there are any misinterpretations in what you say, it's because YOU didn't communicate clearly.

Good luck to you Senator Kerry, if nothing else it's always entertaining to watch you try and climb out of the holes that you constantly dig for yourself.

Sincerely,
Somebody who is watching his daughter grow up in photographs so that you can have the right to say whatever you want about him.

Katrina, your beauty aura is Natural!

When it comes to how you present yourself to the world, you strongly believe that keeping things simple — whether it's your relationships, career, or face soap — is the best way to be beautiful. You're satisfied with what nature gave you and aren't afraid to show your confident, unadorned self to the world.

Your beauty routine is all about maintenance. You keep your skin clean, your body moisturized, and add a splash of color to lips and eyes when the situation demands it. Other than that? You feel best looking as fresh as nature intended. In the course of being au naturelle you may sometimes forget to cut loose and have fun. You should feel free to dress up now and then or splurge on a scent. Spoil yourself, now and then, as nature intended.

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Katrina, a Romantic Gesture turns you on

Hey there, sweet thing! In affairs of the heart, your pulse pounds at the tender and enchanting moments. While you may not have it all mapped out just yet, the fairytale ending is what you're after and romantic gestures are a sure way to give you butterflies.

It might be sweet notes, a bubble bath for two, a surprise getaway to your favorite B&B, or even just an extra spin around the block listening to your favorite love song. Whatever it is, romantic moments (and the thoughts behind them) turn you on. Sure, brains are important, a sense of humor is attractive, and you never said there was anything wrong with sexy underthings, but it's how your partner expresses their feelings for you that really lights your fire. How romantic!

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Katrina, you're Sweet 'n' Sexy

You're not overt about your sexuality, but you're not purposely hiding it either — two traits that naturally draw people to you. You possess an understated zest for life, and a way of approaching the day with a can-do attitude that draws people to you. As a teenager, were you maybe a little on the quiet side? Even if you weren't, it's clear that underneath your occasionally understated statements, you have an undeniable sweetness that attracts people who see that special something burning from within.

Is it the way you carry yourself? That quiet sparkle in your eye? Those who know you intimately can't wait to uncover your sweetness. What's hiding behind that innocent smile? A little devil perhaps? A tattoo in a seductive spot saved only for your lover? Possibly, but you're so good, you'll never tell. Or will you?

I'm sorry that i bought you roses to tell you that i like you I'm sorry That I was raised with respect not to sleep with you when you were drunk I'm sorry That my body's not ripped enough to "satisfy" your wants I'm sorry that I open your car door, and pull out your chair like I was raised I'm sorry That I'm not cute enough to be "your guy" I'm sorry That I am actually nice; not an asshole I'm sorry I don't have a huge bank account to buy you expensive things I'm sorry I like to spend quality nights at home cuddling with you, instead of at a club I'm sorry I would rather make love to you then just f**k you like some random guy. I'm sorry That I am always the one you need to talk to, but never good enough to date I'm sorry That I always held your hair back when you threw up,and didn't get mad at you for puking in my car, but when we went out you went home with another guy I'm sorry That I am there to pick you up at 4am when your new man hit you and dropped you off in the middle of nowhere, but not good enough to listen to me when I need a friend I'm sorry If I start not being there, and being used as a door mat, only to be thrown to the side when the new asshole comes around I'm sorry If I don't answer my phone anymore when you call, to listen to you cry for hours, instead of getting a couple hours of sleep before work I'm sorry that you can't realize.. I've been the one all along. I'm sorry If you read this and know somebody like this but don't care But most of all I'm sorry For not being sorry anymore I'm sorry That you can't accept me for who I am I'm sorry I can't ever do anything right, and nothing that I do is good enough to make it in your world. I'm sorry I caught your bf with another girl and told you about it, I thought that was what friends were for... I'm sorry That I told you I loved you and actually meant it. I'm sorry That I talked to you for nine hours on Thanksgiving when your bf was threatening you instead of spending time with my family. I'm Sorry That i cared I'm sorry that I listen to you at night talk about how you wish you could have done something different. Ladies always bitch and bitch to their friends that there is never any good guys out there, and they always end up with assholes who mistreat them. Well ladies next time you're bitching, maybe look up to see who you're bitching to, maybe that special someone is right there hanging on your every word as usual, screaming in his head "Why won't you give me a chance?" Because the person you are usually searching for is right by you. If you're a guy and you agree with this letter, repost as "I'm sorry " If You're one of the few girls with enough balls to repost, and you would never make your guy feel this way, repost as: ¢¾¢¾¢¾To all the girls who look past the nice guys¢¾¢¾¢¾

To Lovers of the Heart

The Lovers of the Heart
>
>In order to form a more perfect kiss, enable the mighty hug to
>promote to whom we please but one kiss.
>
>Article 1:
>Statement of Love: The Kiss
>
>1. Kiss on the hand = I adore you
>
>2. Kiss on the cheek = I just want to be friends
>
>3. Kiss on the neck = I want you
>
>4. Kiss on the lips = I love you
>
>5. Kiss on the ears = I am just playing
>
>6. Kiss anywhere else = lets not get carried away
>
>7. Look in your eyes = kiss me
>
>8. Playing with ! your hair = I can't live without you
>
>9.Hand on your waist = I love you to much to let you go
>
>Article 2: The Three Steps
>
>1. Girls: If any guys get fresh with you, slap him.
>
>2. Guys: If any girl slaps you, her intentions are still good.
>
>3. Guys & Girls: Close your eyes when kissing, it is rude to stare.
>
>Article 3: The Commandments
>
>1. Thou shall not squeeze too hard.
>
>2. Thou shall not ask for a kiss, but take one.
>
>3. Thou shall kiss at every opportunity.
>
>
>Here are a few reasons why guys like girls:
>
>1. They will always smell good even if its just shampoo
>
>2. The way their heads always find the right spot on our shoulder
>
>3. How cute they look when they sleep
>
>4. The ease in which they fit into our arms
>
>5. The way they kiss you and all of a sudden everything is right in
>the world
>
>6. How cute they are when they eat
>
>7. The way they take hours to get dressed but in the end it makes it
>all worth while
>
>8. Because they are always warm even when its minus 30 outside
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>9. The way they look good no matter what they wear
>
>10. The way they fish for compliments even though you both know that
>you think she's the most beautiful thing on this earth
>
>11. How cute they are when they argue
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>12. The way her hand always finds yours
>
>13. The way they smile
>
>14. The way you feel when you see their name on the caller ID after
>you just had a big fight
>
>15. The way she says "lets not fight anymore" even though you know
>that an hour later....
>
>16. The way they kiss when you do something nice for them
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>17. The way they kiss you when you say "I love you"
>
>18. Actually ... just the way they kiss you...
>
>19. The way they fall into your arms when they cry
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>20. Then the way they apologize for crying over something that silly
>
>21. The way they hit you and expect it to hurt
>
>22. Then the way they apologize when it does hurt. (even though we
>don't admit it)!
>
>23. The way they say "I miss you"
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>24. The way you miss them
>
>25. The way their tears make you want to change the world
>so that it doesn't hurt her anymore..... Yet regardless if you love
>them, hate them, wish they would die or know that you would die
>without them ... it matters not. Because once in your life, whatever
>they were to the world they become everything to you. When you look
>them in the eyes, traveling to the depths of their souls and you say
>a million things without trace of a sound, you know that your own
>life is inevitable consumed within the rhythmic beatings of her very
>heart. We love them for a million reasons, No paper would do it
>justice. It is a thing not of the mind but of the heart. A feeling.
>Only felt.

 

 

 

A Real Man

A real man...(no offense but is there any left in the world?)

1.) A real man knows what makes you laugh 2.) A real man notices your hair & nails. 3.) A real man calls you BEAUTIFUL.. not hot, sexy, or fine as fuck. 4.) A real man CALLS you on a daily basis no matter how busy or tired he is. 5.) A real man looks past what he's HEARD about you or what his friends think of you. 6.) A real man wants to spend as MUCH time as he can with you, & won't get sick of you. 8.) A real man comes over, JUST to watch a movie . 9.) A real man kisses you on the forehead just because. 10.) A real man doesn't tell you what he thinks you want to hear, he tells you what's real. 11.) A real man holds his gurl from the back 13.) A real man will never make her cry 14.) A real man will beat anyone up who fucks with her 15.) A real man writes you notes no matter how stupid they are 16.) A real man wont care what his girl wears 17.) A real man will never make you change urself for them 18.) A real man will not be ashamed of you 19.) A real man wont care about your looks 20.) A real man will let you play with their hair 21.) A real man kisses and hugs you as much as he can 22.) A real man wont just wanna fuck you like most "guys" 23.) A real man will do everything for his girl 24.) A real man will hold your hand 25.) A real man would take a bullet for his girl no matter where or when..... 26.) A real man should be treated like one....

 

baby, when i think about you
I think about love
Darlin', don't live without you
And your love
If i had those golden dreams
Of my yesterdays
I would wrap you in the heaven
'till i'm dyin' on the way

Feel like makin'
Feel like makin' love
Feel like makin' love to you

Baby, if i think about you
I think about love
Darlin' if i live without you
I live without love
If i had the sun and moon
I would give you both night and day
Of satisfyn'

Feel like makin'
Feel like makin'love
Feel like makin love to you

And if i had those golden dreams
Of my yesterdays
I would wrap you in the heaven
'til i'm dyin' on the way

Feel like makin' love
Feel like makin' love
(repeat many times)
Feel like makin' love to you